Category Archives: Mediation

The Logic of Falling in Love

The reputable psychological journal Psychology Today, delves into a topic that many people would describe as inexplicable and not logical: the idea of falling in love. It tries to break it down logically and explore what types of circumstances, conditions, and realities tie into what makes people fall in love. Some of these explanations / reasons revolve around one or both partner’s openness or “vulnerability” to falling in love, introducing the idea of someone having to be “willing to fall in love.” It goes on to describe the phenomenon of falling in love as not really a process sparked by a specific person, but a mindset that befalls us, causing us to not be too seelective about a partner, and therefore makes us more vulnerable to falling in love.

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The Logic of Falling in Love

Evidence-Based Dating: What Could Go Wrong?

Are psychologists reliable sources to advise people on their romantic relationships? There are three studies that are mentioned from psychology-related journals that make suggestions about why people are attracted to each other or are successful in relationships. Certain aspects of a person’s online dating profile can lead to a more successful experience, such as having great pictures of yourself. Evidence is used from another journal to say that people who splurge for luxury items may look more attractive initially to the opposite sex than someone who buys “green” items. However, the “green” person has a better chance at being in a longer relationship. Divorce rates among people of certain occupations are discussed. By the end of the article, it seems inconclusive that psychologists are the most fit people to offer relationship advice.

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Evidence-Based Dating: What Could Go Wrong?

Loving Valentine’s Day While Divorced or Single

Valentine’s Day can stir different emotions from individuals and many times it is driven by whether they are single or not during the holiday. Wendy Paris reminds the reader there are many different types of love. This is an encouragement to readers so they can still be able to enjoy the day.

Paris gives three suggestions of things one can do on Valentine’s Day to show love whether single or not: to love others who may not be loved, to celebrate those in our life we do love, and even being physical (not talking in terms of sexual activity), which can help create those feelings of love by loving how you’re feeling. While not a comprehensive list, anyone can truly put Paris’ advice into practice. Paris shows how anyone, single or in a relationship, can find ways to not just enjoy Valentine’s Day, but to love it.

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Loving Valentine’s Day While Divorced or Single

5 Ways We Sabotage Our Relationships (and How to Stop)

When one is in a relationship in which they enjoy, they usually do not intentionally try to hurt the individual they’re in a relationship with. Many times though, mistakes can be made in which the person is not even consciously aware of what they’re doing. Even unintentional mistakes can destroy relationships. Dr. Jill Weber attempts to help the reader avoiding making some very common, self-sabotage mistakes to their relationship. Her tips and pitfalls include: thinking one can do everything on their own; one is totally dependent on the other person, the fear of failure, being vulnerable of imperfections, and being afraid of change. Dr. Weber gives very practical advice about healthy thinking in regards to one’s self and relationship. While following the advice in Dr. Weber’s blog is not a guarantee to a healthy relationship, they will certainly have a better chance avoiding falling into some of those self-sabotage acts she describes.

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5 Ways We Sabotage Our Relationships (and How to Stop)