How to deal with feelings of rage after divorce mediation?

I went thru mediation yesterday with my ex spouse. Our marriage was a sham created by her and her manipulation and abuse and greed. Yesterday I had to contend with her pompous attitude and the "I’m getting away with everything" attitude. How do I resolve these feelings of rage?/
Hey Gia,
It’s nothing about a broken heart. No one was more glad to see her gone than me. It’s the dealing with the sociopathic side of her, the willingness to lie, to be underhanded and back stabbing, the willngness to deny the truth and say anything under oath without remorse is unbelievable to me. I am glad that it’s over and that I’ll be moving on however the situation has enraged me, the abuse I received for 15 years, the manipulation, the dominition efforts used upon me are very hard to deal with. I will not do anything to cause myself trouble. It is just the idea that there are people who will indeed and are capable of doing anything without guilt. That’s what is bothering me the most.
That plus the knowledge that I should have been able to recognize her for what she was in the beginning and I didn’t.

I agree with seeing a therapist because you didn’t do anything wrong and it will take some time. Be thankful you are free of her. take deep breaths and go out with the guys. She will get hers in the end Karma has a way of dealing with things and it will kick her rear. the nest guy she does her little games can get dangerous. I understand what a broken heart is all about. Not all women are like that and soon you will meet a nice lady that will treat you like the good man you are. Just son’t go getting even out of emotion. Be glad to be rid of her. And this is coming from a woman.

11 thoughts on “How to deal with feelings of rage after divorce mediation?”

  1. go talk to a professional because the last thing you want to do is something stupid. my brother went through mediation and had an anger problem. he ended up on some meds to help him through. good luck and remember to breathe.
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  2. You dont. If you were wronged, feelings of rage are a natural reaction. Do not let them get in the way, get a good lawyer that advises you on how to best handle this situation to your advantage.
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  3. You have to be the bigger person. As much as that sucks there’s not much more you can do. My son is dealing with a vindictive ex, they have 2 babies and she continues to defy the court orders. My advice to you is to go along with the mediators recommendation and if it’s unfair, take her back to court in 6 months. I understand your rage, just realize that it won’t help your cause. She will try to use it against you and unfortunately, YOU are the one who will be hurt more by your rage. She doesn’t sound like the type of person who cares as long as she gets what she wants. I wish you the best.
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  4. You count to 10, let out a big sigh and you tell yourself it won’t be long before this is over and she’ll be someone elses problem. Good things happen to good people but that doesn’t mean rubbish won’t come you’re way. Look back at you’re life..think about other situations where you found yourself angry, upset or just plain confused. Those situations passed in time right? Well so will this.

    Good luck in the future..it will be brighter.
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  5. Don’t acknowledge her.
    Ignoring someone is the absolute worst possible punishment which can be dished out. You turn all of her seething effort into nothingness. She’s her own black-hole; nothing she says can escape the gravity created by her negativity.
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  6. I am there even as we speak my friend and was in the identical type of marriage. The judge at the end pretended I wasn’t even there. The only good tip I can give you is that ALL alimony is tax deductible if you have any.. Be at peace and don’t use drugs or alcohol to resolve your feelings as I did for a while.
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  7. I agree with seeing a therapist because you didn’t do anything wrong and it will take some time. Be thankful you are free of her. take deep breaths and go out with the guys. She will get hers in the end Karma has a way of dealing with things and it will kick her rear. the nest guy she does her little games can get dangerous. I understand what a broken heart is all about. Not all women are like that and soon you will meet a nice lady that will treat you like the good man you are. Just son’t go getting even out of emotion. Be glad to be rid of her. And this is coming from a woman.
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  8. So why did you decide to marry this sociopath in the first place? Sorry about everything you’re going through right now, but let’s face it, the stuff you’re going through is the result of choices you made.
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