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The Logic of Falling in Love

The reputable psychological journal Psychology Today, delves into a topic that many people would describe as inexplicable and not logical: the idea of falling in love. It tries to break it down logically and explore what types of circumstances, conditions, and realities tie into what makes people fall in love. Some of these explanations / reasons revolve around one or both partner’s openness or “vulnerability” to falling in love, introducing the idea of someone having to be “willing to fall in love.” It goes on to describe the phenomenon of falling in love as not really a process sparked by a specific person, but a mindset that befalls us, causing us to not be too seelective about a partner, and therefore makes us more vulnerable to falling in love.

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The Logic of Falling in Love

Evidence-Based Dating: What Could Go Wrong?

Are psychologists reliable sources to advise people on their romantic relationships? There are three studies that are mentioned from psychology-related journals that make suggestions about why people are attracted to each other or are successful in relationships. Certain aspects of a person’s online dating profile can lead to a more successful experience, such as having great pictures of yourself. Evidence is used from another journal to say that people who splurge for luxury items may look more attractive initially to the opposite sex than someone who buys “green” items. However, the “green” person has a better chance at being in a longer relationship. Divorce rates among people of certain occupations are discussed. By the end of the article, it seems inconclusive that psychologists are the most fit people to offer relationship advice.

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Evidence-Based Dating: What Could Go Wrong?

Loving Valentine’s Day While Divorced or Single

Valentine’s Day can stir different emotions from individuals and many times it is driven by whether they are single or not during the holiday. Wendy Paris reminds the reader there are many different types of love. This is an encouragement to readers so they can still be able to enjoy the day.

Paris gives three suggestions of things one can do on Valentine’s Day to show love whether single or not: to love others who may not be loved, to celebrate those in our life we do love, and even being physical (not talking in terms of sexual activity), which can help create those feelings of love by loving how you’re feeling. While not a comprehensive list, anyone can truly put Paris’ advice into practice. Paris shows how anyone, single or in a relationship, can find ways to not just enjoy Valentine’s Day, but to love it.

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Loving Valentine’s Day While Divorced or Single

5 Ways We Sabotage Our Relationships (and How to Stop)

When one is in a relationship in which they enjoy, they usually do not intentionally try to hurt the individual they’re in a relationship with. Many times though, mistakes can be made in which the person is not even consciously aware of what they’re doing. Even unintentional mistakes can destroy relationships. Dr. Jill Weber attempts to help the reader avoiding making some very common, self-sabotage mistakes to their relationship. Her tips and pitfalls include: thinking one can do everything on their own; one is totally dependent on the other person, the fear of failure, being vulnerable of imperfections, and being afraid of change. Dr. Weber gives very practical advice about healthy thinking in regards to one’s self and relationship. While following the advice in Dr. Weber’s blog is not a guarantee to a healthy relationship, they will certainly have a better chance avoiding falling into some of those self-sabotage acts she describes.

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5 Ways We Sabotage Our Relationships (and How to Stop)

Hopefully this doesn’t keep anyone awake at night: Note to Self. Never Hire a Hot Nanny.

I don’t follow Hollywood gossip at all but while shopping for toilet paper and cat food, I couldn’t escape the supermarket tabloids with the huge front pages screaming the news that Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are splitting. It’s sad to hear that another family has to go through the heartbreak and upheaval that a breakup and divorce can bring. The reason for the divorce? Supposedly, he’s been having a fling with their hot nanny.
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O Lord, help me to be pure, but not yet. – Saint Augustine

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Fascinating: The One Thing You Need to Get Over a Painful Breakup

Breakups can be agonizing. You miss your ex, you feel lonely, being single is a significant change, and you’re feeling bitter, angry, and hopeless in relationships. A breakup is a loss and it can be devastating.

I’ve had my share of difficult breakups for sure. When I was inexperienced in heartbreaks, I handled them horribly — indulged in vices, became preoccupied with my ex, and hoped for (a next to impossible) reconciliation. After realizing I was losing a lot of my time to some…

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An honest politician is one who, when he is bought, will stay bought. – Simon Cameron

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I wonder if this is typical: Life Is Short, Hack a Cheater?

As someone who blogs and snarks about infidelity, the Ashley Madison data hack is like some cosmic gift.

First there is the gobsmacking irony of Ashley Madison CEO Noel Biderman’s outrage. Apparently the hack may be an inside job. No, you mean someone you trusted stole something precious of yours, Noel? And their selfish whims and unilateral decisions destroyed your world? Say it isn’t so!

Next, there is …

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Among those whom I like or admire, I can find no common denominator, but among those whom I love, I can: all of them make me laugh. – W. H. Auden

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This might be worth a closer look: Divorcing Jared

It’s almost an afterthought. We think of the child victims. We think of the lives ruined by his conduct. And when the media gets to the part about his wife filing for divorce, it’s as if it’s just naturally the final piece. But it’s truly a complete story within itself. His family is changed forever. Their lives are changed. But hopefully divorce can offer relief. It can offer the emotional relief of not being legally tied to him, but it can offer financial relief as well. And there are so many …

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There is no such thing as a moral or an immoral book. Books are well written or badly written. – Oscar Wilde

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I wonder if this is typical: Filing for Ex-Spouse Social Security Benefits: Does Your Ex Have to Be Involved?

Dear Carrie,

I’m turning 65 in a few months, and getting close to retiring. My ex is also turning 65, and as far as I know, he’s still working. I’d like to file for my ex-spouse’s Social Security benefits, but don’t really want to talk to him about it. Does he have to be involved?

–A Reader

Dear Reader,

I’m getting a lot of questions about ex-spouses and Social Security lately, so I’m going to try to broaden my answer to yours to cov…

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Computer Science is no more about computers than astronomy is about telescopes. – E. W. Dijkstra

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This is a little unpredictable: Ashley Madison Exposes Cheaters, Revealing What’s Missing in Many Marraiges

Yesterday, I signed up on the dating website AshleyMadison.com. If you hadn’t heard of it before this week as the place married people go to cheat on their spouses, then you probably did this week after a cyber attack by some morally-righteous online vigilantes hacked its website and exposed the its members. All 39 million of them! My reason for registering wasn’t to have an affair (which I hope is obviously given I’m sharing that with you), but to prepare for a TV interview I did earlier today …

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There is no pleasure in having nothing to do; the fun is in having lots to do and not doing it. – Mary Wilson Little

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