Experts say that when getting a divorce, parents needs to keep their children completely neutral. One of the worst things you can do is try to make the child chose sides, which is essentially saying “I like mom/dad more than dad/mom”. It hurts the child’s ego and can confuse them for life. They also say children should be kept blind from divorce proceedings and not know about the court cases. Lastly, children should know that parents love them no matter what they do.