Breaking up is hard to do. And that holds true whether it’s a person you need to call it quits with, or an entity, like a goal, or a job. It can seem absolutely necessary to try longer and harder, sometimes. But, most of the time calling it quits is something that’s been on the back-burner of the brain for a long time before the spark is ignited. What are some tells that it’s time to ignite that spark?
If it’s obvious that what you deem important he does not, or vise-versa, than it’s time to reconsider. If all your best moments are in the past and you keep hoping to rekindle that glory, move on. If your sense of self, your strength and person-hood are mitigated and not empowered when you are around your significant other, well that’s significant, and not in a good way. Most importantly, if you’re sticking around just to prove you have what it takes to stick it out, then just stop already.
- If you and your partner find that you fundamentally value different things, there may not be much of a future for your relationship.
- Don’t ever stay in a relationship because of your nostalgia for how good things used to be at their best if they aren’t that way any more.
- Especially do not keep yourself in a relationship because you think leaving is an admission of failure or will cause you embarrassment!
“Ever wanted to break up with someone for a really long time and never have the guts to do it? Well, that was me one month ago. Except it wasn’t my boyfriend I was trying to end a relationship with, it was my job.”