When going through a breakup, people are always quick to throw out advice–some of which are merely myths. You might think it’s wrong to want to date again soon after a break up, but in actuality it’s okay! Also, just because your relationship ended doesn’t make you a failure. People also expect you to cry and it’s ok–grief is a multi-step process. If you have kids, you might feel like you have to step up more, but as long as you are open to how your child is feeling, then you’re on the right track. Lastly, it’s okay to have fun!
- Sometimes the feeling of being lonely and imagining a future alone can be lessened by allowing yourself to at least entertain the idea of dating.
- Relentless self-attack will get you nowhere and is not part of healthy grieving.
- Healthy grieving means that you accept that with separation comes a healing process.
“The fact is that if a relationship is consistently unhappy, filled with chronic anger or anxiety, kids are often better off when divorce provides greater stability.”