Just because you’re afraid to fail is not a good reason to stay in a toxic relationship. Maybe you don’t want to say no or maybe you’re afraid to be alone. Whatever the reason, you shouldn’t put yourself out there only to be in a one-sided or unfulfilling relationship. Trust your instincts, make sure you have a partner who puts in as much time as you do, and focus on competing with your partner rather than making it a challenge you win against them. And, when you fail, don’t beat yourself up and certainly don’t stay. Instead, find what makes you happy.
- People often stay in broken, dysfunctional, and abusive relationships because they believe ending them would be a a personal failure on their part.
- You are so consumed with winning the attention of others that you lose sight of your own identity and what you really need to achieve true happiness.
- Your fear of personal failure keeps you in romantic relationships and friendships that are actually bad for you, rather than focusing on what makes you truly happy.
“Instead of connecting with your instincts about people and trusting yourself when something doesn’t feel quite right, you go forward just so you don’t have to feel as if it was you who messed up the relationship or potential relationship.”