Naturally, a first date introduces you to a possible partner. However, it also serves to filter out those impossibles that you know are not destined to be your ever-after love, or even someone you date twice. You should keep your antennae perked for signs that this is not a great catch. Here are some:
He can’t find anything nice to say about his ex. She treats the servers in a high-handed disrespectful manner. She talks incessantly about her own life, without allowing you a word in edgewise. He drinks too much. She can’t recover graciously when a different opinion is voiced. He’s bored by this whole dating thing, and you too. She can’t admit she was wrong. He laughs at a story about ghosting someone. These are indications of emotional immaturity and you need to but a big red tick by their name and delete their number from your phone.
- If someone bashes their ex, it is a prime example of how they will speak about you when there is conflict.
- Be aware that if you go out with someone who seems to drink a substantial amount of alcohol, this could be a red flag. Two is usually the limit.
- If your date admits that they have ghosted someone in the past, this could show a lack of compassion for other parties.
“f they’re talking only about themselves, that may be a sign that they’re self-absorbed or even narcissistic.”