In this letter, Susan Pease Gadoua writes to Kate Spade’s daughter in the hopes of helping her heal through the trauma of losing her mother to suicide. She writes about how when someone feels as though the pain of their life is too much to bear, ending it can sometimes appear to be the only way out. She reassures Frances that she is not to blame, nor is her father for asking for a divorce.
- When someone takes their own life, the blame should never fall on someone else.
- Spade’s husband had filed for a divorce, but it is key to note that this does not put the blame on him.
- If the burden of the pain becomes too much to handle, letting others lend a hand can help lift the weight.
“Although it can seem senseless to someone who has never contemplated suicide, we can never know another person’s pain be it physical, mental or emotional.”