Grief after a breakup is a normal emotion and should not be ignored or expected to be over soon. It’s a fluid state consisting of initial shock, followed by a lot of emotion and finishing with acceptance and reorganizing your life. You need to learn to deal with these phases in order to move on in a healthy way. Find an outlet, talk to friends or a therapist if necessary. Allowing grief makes it easier to heal after a breakup.
- Shock and disbelieve is the first phase of grief. It is hard to believe what just happened.
- Devastation occurs once the reality of the situation set in. Pain is inevitable
- You will go through a stage that you wonder what happened and why. You need to recharge yourself.
“If you are the person who did not see the breakup coming, the shock stage will probably last longer.”