An online version of a psychology magazine has a feature about how to maintain a relationship. The feature focuses on a person who specializes in relationships. This person’s point is that in relationships, one person often sends out a feeler or conversation point and waits for a response. Although the point may seem small, the expected response is not. A cold response may lead to a worsened relationship. The specialist points to a study he made which shows that couples who stay together respond to points 86% of the time, while those who do not have a one third response rate.
- The small details add up and become big issues over time.
- Your partner will reach out to connect, make sure you are paying attention.
- Emotional bids are used for one partner to try and connect with the other one.
“John Gottman has spent his career studying what makes relationships work — and what he has discovered is as practical as it is important.”