In their romance’s first stages, couples who are entering into a new relationship often overlook potentially serious negative aspects of their partners. Sometimes they will project their ideal version of a mate onto their partner, and blind them to prospective defects. Even though the divorce rate is about 50%, many people blindly rush into the relationship. Red flags which should be clear indicators that the relationship is bad, are often ignored during a period of passion and idealism.
- Couples early into the relationship only focus on the good aspects, and ignore the red flags.
- Premarital couples often project their ideal version of a partner onto the other person.
- Couples will occasionally try to use their partner to heal all of their previous strife and conflict.
“if premarital couples were to take off the glasses, what red flags would they notice, and how would that change their decision-making”