Pastor John Gray warns that a major relationship hurtle couples need to deal with is thinking that they can maintain their friendships without changes once they get married. Grey also beleives that opposite sex friendships especially will have to change. Grey posits that the spouse should take presidence over everyone. So even if you have a friend who is like family, if your spouse doesn’t like them, they have to be removed. He understands this is controversial. But its a point of contention he thinks should be removed from the relationship.
- Don’t assume you know how your partner is thinkin or feels ask.
- Be carefull of being friends with the opposite sex. This can cause tension in a marriage.
- Old friends do not take priority over marriahe. your spouse comes first.
“Deal with that blind spot, because that can became a very real point of contention later on.”