We both have separate property and community property
what happens is you sit in a room w/ your lawyer and the other party sits in another room w/ their lawyer and the mediator goes back and forth to divy up everything. Someone initiate a proposal dividing everything. includes the provisions for any children. It’s all quite antiseptic and nausiating if you ask me. I hated it.
Your own property is safe, it’s just the community property that’s discussed. good luck.