Few situations are more awkward than being convinced that your friend is about t marry the wrong person. Expressing this view without damaging the friendship takes empathy and finesse. Above all, it is important to listen to your friend and to never forget that your friend may have different criteria than you; things that upset you about their future spouse may not feel or look the same to them. If your friend has reservations, use those as the basis of your own side of the conversation, but don’t deluge your friend with a list of objections or gratuitously bash the person they are marrying.
- Assuming your friend’s fiancé seems wrong for them, think twice before judging, as you are not making the commitment, nor can you assess the relationship from inside.
- If a talk seems absolutely necessary, remember sooner is definitely advisable and much better.
- Be alert for reservations on the part of your friend, as that could prove your cue.
“Make it clear that you are there to listen and be supportive.”