You can be generous and compassionate to your friends but often, you neglect yourself. You instinctively reassure your friends who are I need but won’t do to yourself. You need to practice liking and accepting yourself. You need to be compassionate and understanding of failures. Letting yourself know that everyone fails some of the time. We all have the best friendship skills but essentially need to direct them inward towards ourselves and not always onto everyone else.
- Typically, we don’t apply the same level of compassion to ourselves that we offer to others.
- To others, we like them as they are, focus on their strengths and remind them that failure is common to all – but we often fail to do this for ourselves.
- We all have the ability to apply the self-help and compassion we offer to others to ourselves – we just have to look in the mirror and make ourselves do it.
“It’s ironic, yet essentially hopeful, that we usually know quite well how to be a better friend to near strangers than we know how to be to ourselves.”